It's Friday night.
You are sitting on the couch with your boo.....again..
Law and Order SVU marathon on USA is on...again....
You yawn....He adjust himself.......AGAIN.
Here we go again.....
You look over to your man and go..."Why dont you take me OUT anymore??"
He rolls his eyes.........
Let's look at this dillema from two points.
What HE Says:
Look. I've gone out in my 20's and teens. I'm TIRED of going out. Aint shit out there in the streets. I WANNA spend the TIME with you. Why must I spend all this money? Why you always gotta GO Somewhere all the time? It aint no special occasion! It's not our anniversary..or birthday or holiday! We go on a few trips a year. And yes..going OUT in the city is a trip too! I did all that stuff when we were dating. We are a COUPLE now. Isnt that what you wanted? Whats wrong with just saying in the house? Ive done all my running around. I'm settled.... IM TIRED! I work all day! I just wanna chill! And I wanna chill with you, babe! Besides..why cant we do what I wanna do?
What does the WOMAN hear: "He is just plain LAZY and uncreative! He's boring..."
What SHE says:
Why does it have to be about MONEY? Sure we can get a pizza and watch a Redbox movie...but we can also just do something like go to the park....or have a walk..a picnic...or go eat ice cream! It's about effort and time! I want balance. We can stay home AND go out sometimes. We dont have to do anything fancy! And why does it have to be just for a special occassion??? That isnt fair to me! I work hard! I want to have a little fun! See people! Do things. Not be all couped up in the house!!! I'm tired of you eating all my food up! All you wanna do is the same thing.....eat, sleep watch TV and do it!!!"
What does the MAN hear: "She is just NEVER satisfied! It's always about HER. Im not important unless we running the streets, spending cash and catering to her."
We have all been in this situation. After a while in a relationship, things get to the point where it gets stale. The man feels settled. The woman feels bored...and those famous words come out of her mouth.
So where do we go from here?
It's about respecting his needs and her needs....BALANCE
Fellas...take the girl out sometimes. Stuff that doesnt HAVE to cost money. Just be creative, thoughtful and nice about it. Look in the local paper for free events. You might just enjoy it. It's about being attentive. And even if you do stay in the house, do something different. Hell..play naked Scrabble (oh...sorry..thats MY thing! LMAO!)
Ladies..listen to his needs. You dont have to go out ALL the time..but when you do stay in the house..do something that HE wants to do. His fav show. His fav food. Have a "theme night". Watch "The Mexican" and buy some mexican food. ANd if you do go out..make it about HIM sometimes. Treat him...he'd love that!
Love is a two way street....so travel down the road of love...together :)
(Which means you MUST get out the house sometimes! LMAO!)