Sex and The Southern Belle

A sorority sister of mine had some run in with a foo-well from her church. She said some ninny had given her number to a man in her single's group ( Violation #1...you don't do that! ) and he called her. During the call, the man goes a woman should "Submit to him in relationships, while you are dating/committed relationships and married......" She promptly  hung up the phone. And I do not blame her. Submission..... *smh* Men are quick to quote random bible verses about "submission" and how men should submit to God only..and women to their husbands who ultimately, get their instruction from God. That type of thinking is dangerous in my opinion. There is a spiritual disconnect going on there. Submission isn't about ruling over a person....ever. And besides, it is 2013. Get real. Feminism and social movements happened ages ago to free us from this thinking. Submission isn't bout a dogmatic way of men being "over" women. It's...

A friend of mine tweeted an article she found on CNN.com about race in America. The focus was on dating and black women…and how the church may be hurting black women . I always keep an open mind when I read. But I have long felt that the Church isn’t that conducive to women. Note: I didn’t say religion or even spiritual belief. If anything, those are positives. But the church is man-made, often corrupt, and way too influential by man over the spirits of women. Religion teaches you to leave what’s harmful; The Church will tell you to stay. Sprit instructs you to be guided by a force greater than yourself, whereas The Church teaches you to be led by a man/woman who has their own personal beliefs. The problem isn’t “religion” and its influence on dating, it’s the Church. Women in church (as the article states) look to the pastor as THE ALPHA male, a model for men. That’s not a good idea…because this can manifest in romantic feelings for a pastor. We know all too well the stories of the...