July 8, 2010

Dating and New Math

Dating is on some New Math right now.....










Mimimal Input+ Minimal Effort= Maximum Output









Does that even make SENSE to you? In what realm of math and equations and Google algorithms does that even add up?









You go out one time...the second date you want sex?









You go ask someone out and dont pay....and yet expect them to give you some ass AND pay for their food?









You call a person, they never communicate and only want you around when they want you around.









You see where I'm going with this....









I think dating should be about putting in the most effort to get to know someone and hoping (at least) for the greatest outcome possible The greatest outcome shouldnt even be about sex. It's about learning someone new, having new experiences, and making a new friend (with the hopes of something more). In this generation of entitled and spoiled brats, we dont want to work for anything. We want it all the easy way and dont want to work for anything. That includes relationships.









I personally don't mind a little hard work, especially for something I want so badly. And yes..that includes love and a meaningful relationship. I'll go that extra mile for a man I deem special. Buf if I see that those efforts arent being reciprocated, then it is definitely time to fall back. Why do all the work and have nothing to show for it?









Part of the rewards of love is actually feeling like you worked toward it. The satisfaction you feel when you know that person cares about you. The ups and downs are minor problems to the greater good. It's like solving that really hard word problem. You didnt think you'd make it but you did. In dating, it's the courting and the getting to know you that leads up to the long lasting love.









I just want it all to add up again for a new generation of lovers.

Especially for me.....

2 comments:

  1. Makes perfect sense, Mocha. I too believe the courting of a woman pretty much sets the tone for the rest of the relationship. And we both know that reciprocation is the one thing that makes it all seem worthwhile.

    Insane @ You go ask someone out and dont pay....and yet expect them to give you some ass AND pay for their food?

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  2. It's really unfortunate the state that dating has gotten too. I agree with Don, the courtship does set the tone for how the relationship will progress. But, as Steve Harvey says (I cant believe Im quoting him, lol) men will attempt to get away with as much as you allow them too, so i guess its up to us women to put our foot down and be firm about our expectations. And if we lose some second or third dates with said guy after that, then maybe he wasnt "the one" afterall.

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