Skip to main content

Dating and New Math

Dating is on some New Math right now.....










Mimimal Input+ Minimal Effort= Maximum Output









Does that even make SENSE to you? In what realm of math and equations and Google algorithms does that even add up?









You go out one time...the second date you want sex?









You go ask someone out and dont pay....and yet expect them to give you some ass AND pay for their food?









You call a person, they never communicate and only want you around when they want you around.









You see where I'm going with this....









I think dating should be about putting in the most effort to get to know someone and hoping (at least) for the greatest outcome possible The greatest outcome shouldnt even be about sex. It's about learning someone new, having new experiences, and making a new friend (with the hopes of something more). In this generation of entitled and spoiled brats, we dont want to work for anything. We want it all the easy way and dont want to work for anything. That includes relationships.









I personally don't mind a little hard work, especially for something I want so badly. And yes..that includes love and a meaningful relationship. I'll go that extra mile for a man I deem special. Buf if I see that those efforts arent being reciprocated, then it is definitely time to fall back. Why do all the work and have nothing to show for it?









Part of the rewards of love is actually feeling like you worked toward it. The satisfaction you feel when you know that person cares about you. The ups and downs are minor problems to the greater good. It's like solving that really hard word problem. You didnt think you'd make it but you did. In dating, it's the courting and the getting to know you that leads up to the long lasting love.









I just want it all to add up again for a new generation of lovers.

Especially for me.....

Comments

  1. Makes perfect sense, Mocha. I too believe the courting of a woman pretty much sets the tone for the rest of the relationship. And we both know that reciprocation is the one thing that makes it all seem worthwhile.

    Insane @ You go ask someone out and dont pay....and yet expect them to give you some ass AND pay for their food?

    ReplyDelete
  2. It's really unfortunate the state that dating has gotten too. I agree with Don, the courtship does set the tone for how the relationship will progress. But, as Steve Harvey says (I cant believe Im quoting him, lol) men will attempt to get away with as much as you allow them too, so i guess its up to us women to put our foot down and be firm about our expectations. And if we lose some second or third dates with said guy after that, then maybe he wasnt "the one" afterall.

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

2018: A Year Without Fear

I used to make these lofty, resolution goals each year. The older I got, the grander my ideas became. That is until I reached the age of 30 and my entire life shifted.

At the time, I was divorced, living totally on my own, trying to rebuild myself financially and trying to figure out my next move toward happiness. That was at the time I started this blog.... which started out as my chronicling the dating and mating of a 30 something divorcee' in the South's Largest Metropolis. I was trying to date. I was trying to establish myself financially. And I was trying to find my purpose.

So much has changed in the almost 9 years since I started this blog. I've traveled alone. I gained and lost friends. I got into a Ph.D. program. I got re-married. I lost my mother, my best friend.... not to mention my uncle, cousin, and aunt. I gained a sweet baby girl.  I went from getting my bliss.... to trying to balance that bliss with my own life..... Yet in trying to find the balance, I alw…

The Ides of Birthdays

My 39th birthday is in two weeks.
*sigh*
You know, I feel like I write the same type of blog around my birthday every year. I get extremely introspective and pensive about the whole thing. But this is my last year of my 30s and I am feeling all of the feelings that have ever and could be felt. I hate trying to bring this up to folks.. who are always wanting to remind you of "well.. you got this.. you got that...". As if you haven't dealt with depression long enough to realize it doesn't matter what you have... if one piece is missing.. it throws it all off.
While yesterday was the 3rd anniversary of my mom's passing, I realized she wouldn't be here for my 40th. That was a hard pill to swallow. I thought for sure we'd be celebrating a lot that year... my Ph.D... a baby... a big, fancy car..... all of that. I only have one of those things so far but still... I was hoping that having her hold on at least until then would be the icing on my cake.
My life feels…

#YearThirtyFine: The Day I Stopped Giving a F****

Turning 39 aka Thirty Fine has been an experience.
My body has more aches and pains...I think I also found a gray hair...

I've had to make more doctor's appointments than I'd like...

I am out of breath when I chase my kid.. which reminds me to work out more and eat better.

I have to keep laxative on deck because I'm getting old...

But...
I also decided that my 39th birthday would be the day that I I would not give a f*** during my last year of my 30s.

I do not care what you think about my body. Imma wear a sheer shirt and show all my midriff.

I don't care what you think about how I parent. I am going to parent how I want and Baby Girl will be better for it.

I do not care that I am broke or have money for all the things I want

I do not care that I don't have a fly whip.

I do not care that my skin and hair isn't perfect all the time

I don't care if I wear makeup today.. and none tomorrow.

I am going to eat what I fucking want and worry about the pounds la…