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"Love:Digital Style: The POLLS ARE OPEN!

Vote for your Favorite Couple!!
#1: Maria and Joel
#2 Yvonne and Eli  (who just got engaged officially this past weekend..yeah!!) #3 Carla and Mike

Voting Ends at 5 pm On July 29th! Winners will receive a $100 SpaFinder Gift Card:

Thanks and Good Luck!

Poem: Your Eyes

I tell myself I will know When I look into your eyes They will tell me… Nothing but truth They will pierce my soul And bore into me Deeply They will be nothing but honest They will be bright And inviting Asking me to dive deep into you Swim in your soul I expect them to be amber pools of light Reflecting all that is good Pure and innocent Your eyes are kind They tell me your story without words They let me know what you want before you speak it. In time they will speak what your heart wants to say Sultry and softly I tell myself I will know When I look into your eyes And they tell the story of our future And I see our children in your eyes. In the sparkle that is hope. Your eyes… I just hope you see me. Notice me As Boaz noticed Ruth… I want to be a stranger no more Your eyes will be music A sweet symphony of passion Harmonious That sings the song of our hearts Your heart. Your eyes will know And I will know In your eyes. I’m waiting… I’m waiting..

Friend Quota Fulfilled

I have enough friends.
I repeat. I have enough fucking friends.
So trust me when I tell you it annoys me to no end when I go out with a guy and he goes. “Well…let’s be friends….kick it…chill.”
Or I’m looking at the on-line profiles; some dude hits me up wayyyyy across on country and goes
“Maybe we can be friends…I know I’m far away”
Or I started to date a guy.I already started to fall for him…and he busts out with the
“I want to just be friends. We can still be cool”
Or you are out in the street minding your own damn business and some bugaboo annoys you and hits you with the “So you cant have no friends??”

Hell fucking naw I cant have no friends.
 I don’t want to have any friends. I have enough friends. My friend quota is fulfilled. PERIOD. with these same, sorry muthafuckers. Matter of fact, I'm purging those friends as we speak. I’m sick of having friends.
If you don’t want to date, get the hell on.If you aren’t trying to show me off as some arm candy, bounce. If you are not ready…

"Love: Digital Style" Contestants #3: Carla and Mike

About Us Mike and I aren't your typical "young couple." Meeting online late July 2010 on SinglesNet, we had a whirlwind romance that led me to change many of the plans I had made for the future months. New to the Chicago area and only there for a short 3 months, Mike convinced me that extending my stay in the Windy City to give us enough time to grow and develop something long-lasting would be worth my time. Unsure of what to do, I let things run their course and work themselves out, hoping to be steered in the right direction. In one year, Mike and I have seen each other through dramatic life changes (unemployment, career changes, family loss, etc.), are currently dealing with temporary long distance, and all throughout choosing to put the relationship in the decisions we make moving forward.
What made you use an on-line dating service?
I was new to the Chicago area (moved there for an internship) and was really just looking to see what kind of guys the Chicago area had to…

"Love: Digital Style" Contestants #2: Yvonne and Eli

photo - ( from our first date) What made you use an on-line dating service?I just find it easier to meet ppl online (friends included) because I'm partially lazy and I think and type alot faster than I talk or walk in real life. Besides there's less pressure (to me) if you chit-chat for a bit before meeting face to face. What made the site you used attractive to you? (Price, number of members, etc.) - I found some discount coupons online that made it very reasonable. Was this your first time using on-line dating or were you a "pro" at it?Not my first time, but I wouldn't say I'm a pro. What attracted you (or your mate) to your profile? Who contacted whom first?His fine self (picture) and the fact that he looked very happy. How long did you communicate before meeting in person?Erm like a few days. When and where was your first date?A park overlooking the Hudson River. We didn't really spend money on food or booze for a traditional first date but we are…

"Love: Digital Style" Contestants #1...Joel and Maria

About us: Joel and I met online in July 2010 through OKCupid.  Neither of us were looking to get into a serious relationship because our lives were in transition.  However, what started as a search for a consistent activity partner, ended up being the sweetest, most mature relationship I've had the pleasure of being in.  We made it "official" on August 3, 2010 when he asked me to be his girlfriend while on a roadtrip from NY to DC so I could scout out apartments.  Sicne then, I started a new job, moved to a new city, and changed my hairstyle about 4 times.  He has moved from NY to Texas and most recently undergone two brain surgeries.  We've overcome the difficulties of a long distance relationship and differences in religion.  We're in this thing for the long haul, frequently talking about marriage and our future together.  There was nothing about my life that would have led me to Joel in person.  Had it not been for OKCupid, I would not be as happy and grateful …

On the "Fast Track"

Two of my really good friends are in great, successful relationships (at least they are to me…LOL).They have loving, supportive boyfriends who seem to be compatible with them. These relationships seem normal, right? Two people coming together to form a loving bond…
…only difference is these two chicks had their relationships “Fast tracked” (a phrase coined by my friend MN whose own relationship was “fast tracked”)
What is fast tracking you might ask? In terms of a relationship, that means all of the middle-man notions of dating, games and bullshit is cut out and people have that VERY adult conversation early: “Listen…I like you…you like me…let’s do the damn thing”. In the case of my friend Y (also a fast-tracker), her relationship went something like this:
Dude hits her up on dating site She ignores him for 2 weeks Finally she breaks down and answers his email They go out in August 2 weeks later he tells her “Look. I’m trying to be in a SERIOUS committed relationship together” BOOM! Fast-trac…

CONTEST: "Love.....Digital Style"

Since the 4th of July is a day to celebrate the "fireworks" of love...I thought it would be an appropriate time to launch a new contest:
Love: Digital Style

Did you meet your current partner on-line?
Did you use a dating website?
Did that relationship lead to marriage? An engagement? s3omething long term? Or even a bundle of joy? ( or 2...or
Well, if you had a successful and positive experience on-line that has lead to you meeting your mate...then this contest is for you.
You have two ways to enter:
1) you can email us at Sex and the Southern Belle  (with pictures preferably) with the tagline "Love....Digital Style"
2) You can upload a YouTube video with the tagline "Love: Digital Style"... (being as creative as you can) answering the following questions...
What made you use an on-line dating service?What made the site you used attractive to you? (Price, number of members, etc.)Was this your first time using on-line dating or w…