Sex and The Southern Belle

...is all about the POLE! Question: Ladies..do you have a problem if your man wanted to buy a stripper pole for the house? OR wanted you to go to the strip club (watching this episode of The Marriage Ref...this argument is DUMB (wife is against it) . Not understanding why*smh*) Cee (man) why is she against it? I missed that episode... 7 hours ago · Mocha http://www.nbc.com/the-marriage-ref/video/clips/the-panel-on-the-stripper-pole/1205229/ 7 hours ago · AJ (man) .......well since I am Sade and all..No I don't have a problem with it.. 7 hours ago · Britt My only issue with the pole is children and company. Other than that no problem. I go to the strip club, but not with my mate. I guess I would go if he asked, but I probably won't be the one suggesting it. *shrugs* I'm not against it though. 7 hours ago · Nell the pole can be in our bedroom and i will be more than willing to take lessons :) 7 hours ago · Mocha @Cee..she NEVER had a valid reason...other than she didn't t...

...is about " The Number" This week's "Ask a Man" question comes from Ru. She wants to know.. "Do men REALLY wanna know "THE NUMBER" a chick has? You know..THE number before you???? What is TOO MUCH? " Hmmm...felllas? Cee (Man) any dude that has a problem with a number needs to (1) check his own number, and then (2) watch the movie "Chasing Amy". Mon at 6:50pm · Ru Bwahahahahaha! , who REALLY asked this question. Even though I'm not a dude, I'll answer. No, NO ONE wants to know. They say they do, but they don't. I have no problem telling but I rather not because it starts shit and I don't want to know either because I get "images". Plus I think we're too old (and "experienced") for that. I'd want to know... See More if he was a virgin so I could slip out the back before it even started and never call again (don't want to deflower one and have em all attached, especially since I'm...

I've been asked to do a "Ask a Woman" counterpart to my "Ask a Man" questions. Our first question comes from AJ . He wants to know "Women seem to go for style over substance every time. Explain to me why you always go for the "bad” guy (style) as opposed to the” good” guy (substance)? And when they say they w...ant a good guy and find him..they still end up going for a bad guy?" Ladies..thoughts? Candi I don't think it's true that women go for the "bad" guy every time. I haven't been with a bad guy, so I can't fully speak for these women who do this. However, if I had to guess, maybe they're looking for adventure and the "good" guy doesn't offer them that, or maybe they have a complex which draws them to bad guys. Maybe they feel they don't deserve a good guy. I don't know...just my thoughts. 8 hours ago · Mocha Guess I'll answer. Women like bad guys for the sense of "adventure" th...

...is about "Flirting". The "Ask a Man" Question is a little early (usually ask on Mondays)..but. this question reminds me of the movie "He's Just Not That Into you" "Nell" would like to know "When is a man flirting....and when is he being "nice"? Because I mean...the signals can be mixed" Fellas, wanna tackle this? D.S (Man) Unless you are a blood relation, men are always flirting.But just cause he flirts, don't mean he wants what he's flirting with. He does it because he can. Fri at 11:44am · EX-Husband (yep...the ex husband...LOL) perfect answer. agree with DS. i was thought by the older men in my family to always compliment or flirt with a woman. you never know how you may make her day. Fri at 11:48am · Mocha *side eye* @ Ex....flirting gets you in trouble, too. Fri at 11:50am · Mocha @DS good answer! Fri at 11:51am · Nell @DS but doesnt that lead the female on though.. flirting because you can is a bit mislea...

..."Crushes" On this week's "Ask a Man" blog series, our question comes from my friend "Tee Tee." "If you have a crush...do you date your crush...or just let it remain a fantasy?" Tee Tee I can dig both sides... see if you let the crush remain a fantasy they can never disappoint but if you act on it and they do disappoint then you 'll never feel the same about the crush. IDK.. #imjustsayin... I dated my crush for 4 yrs.. still ♥ him 2 this day :) So go for it if you think it's mutual I guess :) JD (Man) Yeah, go for it if you can. Forget "What if's." CC I married mine. I made my interest known and took it from there. · Angel My hubby had a crush on me and well... here we are. lol. Mocha No crush I've ever had (past or present) has manifested itself into a relationship. Cee (Man) I developed an immediate crush on this woman once on our first date... and, well... *looking at his wedding ring & smiling* · Tee Tee ...

In a new weekly series, various women readers will be posing different questions to men in order to spark dialogue and get some male perspective> This week's question comes come a reader, Candi. "Has the phone call died??? Do men actually call women or should I expect a text as the norm?" Here is some feedback from some men (and women): CC (man) Before I answer... are you referring to that initial call after the first meeting & exchanging phone numbers... or are you referring to a call vs. a text message after a relationship is established? Mocha @CC..I think in general. When a person asks for your number..instead of a first "call"...you get a series of text. Rarely if ever...do brothers take the time and call a sista on the phone. Thu at 10:25am · SB Sooooo true Tati! I mean why even ask for your number? C C Ah... I see what you're getting at. Well, did you ever think about how much pressure is put on us regarding that first call? How long to wait, w...