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Feeling/Not Feeling: Short and Sweet

(These brothers are sharp...courtesy of Andre' Kardashian's Pinterest Board)


MAXWELL IS COMING!! 2 nights, all the albums IN FULL, Phillips Arena!Free stuff with couponsThemed Food nights. Fridays are usually Tacos for me. Or Fish. Or Pizza.Michael Ealy and his sex scenes in "Think Like A Man"I like odd things like Full Lips w/ Green Eyes. Or Freckles on dark skinned folks. Or real negro features on SUPER light people. That's so dope and unusualPinterest (that bears repeating)men who read books. enjoy reading books. it's sexyMy upcoming Tango classgirls who have ownership of their curvesbeing curvy but FITplanning pretend weddings.dapper dressed men...(.and's not "gay". it's just high fashion. i wish more men knew that!)Marc JacobsTom Fordlike i deserve to be adored. everyday. every second of every minute of every hour of everyday. Not obsessively..but enough to where I deserve a damn phone call once or twice a dayUsher's &…

Thursday Tunes: Melanie Fiona.."Been That Girl"

Melanie Fiona is not only gorgeous but super duper talented...I saw Melanie Fiona (last name Halim) in concert last year with Marsha Ambrosius.  She and all her ebony flowing black hair was amazing! And while I've always  loved her since her debut album The Bridge (which contained hits like "It Kills Me" and "Give it to me Right")  the Canadian songstress of Guyanese decent really sealed the deal for me with her follow up album The MF LIFE. 

Although there were tons of songs I liked on her sophomore album, none struck a chord with me like the short song she wrote with Drake (Yes..the Drake...he was also her former band member back in the day) called "Been that Girl". It was gut wrenching to me (or maybe I was going through some period of rejection..who knows).  Say what you want about Drake...he may be a little "emo"...but he can definitely tap into some raw emotions. I think because Drake actually LOVES women. and you can tell. True..he ha…

Wordless Wednesday

(A moment of silence for the blue-eyed sexy thang that is Michael Ealy...sweet mother of GAWD!)

"Think Like a Man" and Subliminal Messages....

This evening, after turning in my LAST paper of the semester, my one and only (aka My Mama) and I went to have dinner and see "Think Like a Man". I enjoyed the eye candy. I enjoyed every single damn scene Michael Ealy was in..(WHEW!!!)...and I loved Kevin Hart's comedy and vulnerability...I even like Gary Owen (though limited in his role) as the voice of reason.....I loved all the cameos... It was a GREAT movie...don't get me wrong...
But....the feminist in me has some G8damn concerns.
What is the message we are sending to women??

All the women in the movie were pushing the men....pushing them to do the right thing..pushing them to be their best and live out their dreams.. and HOPING in turn they get their dreams. Yo...I am not feeling that. I was married to a dreamer..who, despite me pushing and encouraging NEVER had his dreams materialize…and you get tired.I can only motivate so much. We had the long term talk. We had the short term talk. If a nugget ain't movin…

Feeling/Not Feeling


unappreciated. Although a negative..I am feeling that.adventerous. Got a lot I need to accomplish this summerwhen he says "hey gorgeous face...." It melts me sowhile he may say that to a lot of women....(LOL)..I feel it's special.the cool side of the pillowdapper dressed dudessomeone reading poetry to mesilence.drinking cold  El Jimador while listening to old Phoebe Snow records....heavy breathingmore silenceInstagramTweetgramTwitterbooty. I just appreciate a nice ass...male or femalea foot tattoolegalization of soft drugsnipple and clitoris piercings....The Blog Bitches Gotta Eat and her corresponding FB page. LOVE HER.Erotic Artold fashioned puzzles with 1500 pieces, and doing them while I sip roobios teapics of gorgeous black babies.sexualweird. I'm just a weird person

Not Feeling

appreciated (See above)securelike there is a reason to smile...Oh I smile..but I mean SMILE till it hurts and I have sense of style. I think I need June Ambrose in my life.…

The Truth: Faking Orgasms

We all do it.
All women do it.
This is a universal fact..,

So get over it men.
But our reasons why may surprise you.

In my women's studies class, I was responsible for presenting on the sexual, personal and political implications of faking orgasms. Yes... Political.

This presentation was right up my alley. I mean, I'm a sex blogger for goodness sakes. While I always felt my orgasm or lack there of was a highly personal thing, I never thought of my faking it was some sort of participation in patriarchy or capitalism.

Hard to understand? Let me explain....

As women, when we fake orgasms, we totally remove ourselves from the sexual experience. We play into the stereotypes of passive women who just "take" sex. We are the ones who are laboring in the sex: giving men our orgasms as a "gift" to their hard work.  Sex becomes a negotiation. Orgasms become our capital in sexual economy. Women feel that a man is the only one who can GIVE you an orgasm. Men hold all the…

April Bliss Check-In #2

Feeling/Not Feeling


I met Jill Scott!! I was with my friend Rita and we were at Cheesecake factory! She was so nice! I shook her hand!  She even did a little bow!She had her cute son and looked amazing!!! *sigh* I had a serious girl crush!Jill is a goddess that can do no Aries Goddess. *le swoon*Our waiter was so gay and excited (LOL)..he tipped us off that Jill was in the corner booth!That made my whole week! Seriously!The semester is endingI think Imma bring the full bush, 1970s pubes back. I mean..why torture myself with the waxing. I doubt anyone is gonna see it for a while. *shrug* (LOVE IT)Canibus brownies (I've never had any...I just like the idea)legalized prostitution and labor unions for sex work.I love my women's studies classes more than my English classes.Just 1.5 more years to go.....let's hope at least....we shall see...Scandal. I like that show....Surprise visits...laughing until I cryBig KRITMonica's new albumPassion at first sightMelanie …

Thursday Tunes:Issac Hayes- "You're In My Arms Again"

The great Isaac Hayes, aka Black Moses. To most modern kids, he is known as the voice of "Chef" on South Park. But to us kids, who were raised on Soul, know him as Black Moses...Truck Turner. A man with a silky baratone, serious 1970s seduction. He was the man at legendary Stax records, the epitome of Memphis soul. I keep thinking about the first time I saw Isaac Hayes, in the Wattstax movie. He was the man who crafted the Shaft soundtrack. HE also wrote what I think is the longest song on earth...."By the time I get to Memphis..."

Someone sent me this song. I think they were thinking of me

...I swooned. 

All I could imagine was us in daishikis, with bead curtains, lava lamps, incense, body oil and velvet paintings..and a slow love scene sequence form a Blaxploitation film.

Don't you just love 1970s soul??

Faking Orgasms: Discussion Intro

This video is part of a discussion for my women's studies Sexuality and Society class. We will continue our discussion later this week....stay tuned :)

Veni Vidi Vici: A Poem

For your eyes were set upon me
Antelope for the lion's mouth
Prey that had no choice
But to succumb to little deaths
Electric blue was the energy
Upon first sight
The hunger consumes the hunter
Anticipation thick like fog
A seductive haze filled aura
You saw...

You entered me
Body and soul
Tongue fanning flames
Hands gripping aroused flesh
Swollen femininity and engorged manhood
Meet at a secret dwelling space
Arrive together in a cloud
Sweat becomes nourishment
Sweet relief. Prize rewarded
For no real reason other than lust
Beats pulsate but no music plays
A trance becomes erotic dance
Thrust into an orbit
Salty tears signal arrival
To a destination only you could navigate..

And once it was over
It's back to normal
As if it was all nocturnal emission
No use for love
No use for it
The quest narrative
The migration piece
Complete with denoumount
The action of rising and falling hips
Breathing has stopped
The novel complete
You're done with fantasy
Reality lo…

Feeling/Not Feeling: 33 Things


My new-found ability to just get up and travel whenever I damn well please (one perk of being single).Hotel beds...they are so comfyMy trip to DCSeemed like every dude in DC had  a!!!Tequila shots (pretty much anything w/ tequila in it)My good girlfriendsBrunchDancing in hot, tight reggae clubswarm hugsmaking new friends...I feel in love with this Chinese spot in DC called Meiwah...*sigh* It was near my hotel and I swear I should  have taken some back with meEaster dinner...I love ham..sue me. I will not be giving up pork in my lifetime. *shrug*U street...Still love my IPhone and my IPod....The smell of new books (and yes..I own a Kindle..but new book smell is awesome!)no summer classes! I am going to rest for 3 months........seriously rest and read for leisure and watch my DVR and take tango lessons and work out like a beast...more time!First kisses........and when people moan when they kiss. *shivers*

Not Feeling:

Bust my ass on the pavement in DC..LMAO! My heels …

Thursday Tunes: Bob Marley..."Is This Love"

It's hard to narrow down ONE single, solitary Bob Marley song that I love. Ever since I was 8 years old, and stumbled across my father's old, dusty copy of "Legend"....I was hooked. I would clean my room to Bob Marley ,shaking my 2 little curly ponytails and dancing..... I've always loved reggae..

Robert Nesta Marley may be more famous for his brood of children as well as his massive body of influential work. Born in St. Anne Parish Feb 6 1945, to a white plantation owner and an 18 year old Jamaican girl (Cedella Booker). he recognized his "double consciousness" and duality as a biracial Jamaican but was most influenced by Rastafarian movements and Marcus Garvey. Later in life, he joined Bunny Wailer, Joe Higgs, and the Peter Tosh (also one of my fav artist btw....) as The Wailers. I could go on and on about the history of Bob Marley, the influence of his music, all his concubines and kids(lol)...but most audiophiles already know..... Bob Marley IS regg…

April Bliss Check-In

So Shall It End...

So I made a conscious decision, sometime last year to have 1 year of celibacy until my birthday.

Needless to say...that period is over. And I ended it.  (Yes...with sex).
It was beautiful. Amazingly sensual. Connected in a way I hadn't experience in a very long time....And it was worth waiting for. The person respected my body and my needs. I didn't feel used .I didn't feel coerced or harassed. I didn't feel like I lost myself. If anything, I felt powerful that I had will power this long and did NOT give my cookies away to the first joker who batted his big brown eyes at me and flashed a cunning smile. I didn't feel once ounce of guilt or remorse. This isn't to say that I had this transcendental experience while making love. It was just..........nice for a change.

Yep...I waited a year. And I am better for it.
Although some will judge and go, "Well..why not wait until your husband comes....".  Uh...while I want to get married...that may be 6 months to 6…

Isn't/He: A Poem

Is he this?
He is... isn't he?
He is nourishment and every meal:.for breakfast..lunch..and dinner..dessert and snacks in between
HE is spicy and sweet/Domestic and Exotic/Dark and Tall/Moody and Earthy/Amazing and Overwhelming/Magical Realism and Naturalism
He is what has consumed...what rages in me a want for him like an all consuming fire.
HE is the arms in which I lay....where my head perfectly fits.
He has the lips that quench my thirst...
He is the tongue that bathes my tortured skin.
He is the thickness that engulfs me.
He is....isn't he?
He is tonic and elixir...
He is what swells inside my womanhood, filling me fully, completely
He is the smell of Christmas morning, Sunday dinners and Valentine's Day candy..
He is the balm for my heart...Neosporin for my old wounds and battle scars
He is the pornographic and erotic, a sensual terrorist staking his claim
He is the possessor of the tool of love that touches my spine, like the life force of human kind depends on it.
Is he this?