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Spirit and Sex: Reconciling the Two

I am torn.

I am a person of great faith. I wouldn't say I am overly religious or holier-than-thou. But I do believe in God. I believe that Jesus is my personal savior and have accepted Christ when I was 7 years old in an elaborate baptimal ceremony at which my grandmother got the holy ghost. I was in the choir. I did Easter speeches and Christmas pageants.

Luckily for me, I wasn't raised in a household where religious dogma ruled. I was able to form my own independent thoughts on things. Coupled with my mother, who is liberal to a fault. I mean...kinda little more than left of center. She told me about my body early on. The dangers and the beauty of sex. I was aware of my body and all its gendered power by the time I was 12. She told me that masturbation was "perfectly fine and safest sex around"...and that I "had to know my own body before I gave it to someone else". By the time that happened, I was almost 19 years old and very much a "late bloomer&qu…

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A Celebration of Titties :)

(Just look how glorious those thangs are! That guhl is fine, doe....)

I, along with my other big breasted sistas, want to reclaim the breasts! There has been an assault and shaming of breast-meat and I will not stand it any longer.I want breasts to return to their rightful place in the pantheon of womanhood and sexiness.. and appreciation

This is a manifesto of sorts!

STOP THE ASSAULT, SHAMING and IGNORING of the titty-breastmeat!!!
There was a time when my boobs were enough. I mean..I could wear a low cut shirt and get free drinks. I could push em up and almost put my eye out and go and have a good time.  Now...all of a sudden..breasts are not revered anymore.

Even breasts have become a sort of poster child of malignancy. It is all of a sudden "woe is me...woe are those who have breasts". I say this in part due to all the the billions pumped into Breast Cancer. This isn't to say breast cancer isnt should be defeated and irradicated. But all of a sudden..."b…

Dear Mr. Marcus: You Dissapoint Me.

(sad this is the only suitable for work pic I could find of this dude...LOL)

I was inspired by my friend A and the tradition of  awesome Luvvie over at AwesomelyLuvvie to pen a sternly worded letter to my favorite porn star, Mr. Marcus. I learned last week in article in the Huffington Post that Mr. Marcus was irresponsible with his penis. Apparently he was "patient 0" in the recent syphilis outbreak that has shut down the California porn industry. He did the most irresponsible thing by altering his test results so that he can keep working. An 18 year vet of the industry, he knew better.

I was gonna wait until next week to post this..but the spirit has moved me! Therefore, he deserves a sternly worded letter from yours truly.

Dear Mr. Marcus:

You are my fav porn star I mean DUDE!! . I've been a fan for YEARS. I've even reviewed some of your work here. Your work w/ Superhead is legendary. I mean, you helped solidify her title.  You are fine. You are chocolat…

I Don't Want Your Noni Juice, Ninja!!

As you all know, I've done the dating site here and there and a time or two (Ok..maybe more than two times but who is counting ....i bet you nosy bastards!) But anyway...I've done the on-line dating thing. Some good............. Mostly bad. Some ok experiences. I haven't given up on dating nor would I NOT recommed on-line dating as a great started for getting your feet wet in dating.....but for me, at this moment., I've had to take a break from it for several reasons.
One of which is: I am not buying what you're selling.

Oh no..I don't mean the usual "I'm a good guy. I'd be your Black Prince Charming"-bullshit men usually hustle.  That is expected on a dating site. I mean the ACTUAL selling of goods and/or services. Oh yes, your favorite dating sites have now become undercover means for men to get female clientele/partners in pyramid schemes/direct marketers. And it seems there is nothing you can do about it.

I encountered this a f…

Thursday Tunes: Cody Chesnutt "No One Will"

Cody Chestnutt is sort of an elusive dude. Most people know him for his vocals and impressive guitar playing on The Roots' hit "The Seed".  He's also from they def makes him dope in my eyes. He had a few moderate hits. His 2002 double cd release "Headphone Masterpiece" was so dope and included the catchy tune "Look God In Leather" (it also included an early release of "The Seed" but for me..his collab w/ The Roots tops that).

Someone sent me this song last week. I had almost forgotten how much I LOVED this song. So sexy and simple...and his voice is real thick like cane syrup on top of scratchy vinyl. Retro and delicious...

My fav lyrics:

Well, maybe I'm insaneBut don't you hold it against me girlI'm a lunatic with convictionI'd said no one will, no one will, no one willAppreciate everything you areNurture you and your open heart

Check it out...the song is all kinds of sexy dopeness. WHEW! I played it at leas…

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(earrings by 2nd Generation Imports and Design, Decatur, GA)

The NSFW Weekly Porn Review: How to Squirt (with instructions)

As you can see...apparently I am obsessed with this right??

So anyway...I was looking for an instructional video on "How to Squirt"...and ya know...I found a really good one. It wasn't trashy or anything...... I found it on

Ok..I won't like. the dude is mad  clinical technical  a tad Creepy McCreeperson and it aint sexy...  and the woman in it is shaped like a teenager (yuck).....but I thought it was useful for men, women, and those of any orientation to learn this technique... with or without a partner....

I mean dude is no Alfred Kinsey that is for damn sure.. He's just a guy who has a girlfriend who wants to teach others. He isn't talking about G-spots or massaging the "female prostate" or anything clinical/scientific......he's just a pervy guy who says stuff like "Look at her face....that's her reward"..  And he's using grapeseed oil as lubricant. and even gives us tips on what to drink to "hydrate" ou…

Blogs you Need to Know: Blog Roll Call

Product Review: Sexy Adult Halloween Costumes

What's the most common role-play fantasy men have?
School girl?
French maid?

In an overwhelming "informal poll", the "naughty nurse" fantasy won by a landslide!!! 
Halloween is in a little over a month! As you all know, it is my favorite "non-holiday"- holiday!  I dress up every year in something different. And trust me I recylce these costumes in my everyday life :) Not to mention, I encouraged you all a while ago in my 'Lingerie Review" to get a few costumes. This is the best time of year to stock up on things that can be used for both Halloween and "sexy" role play. Everyday can be a holiday!

Our friends at Sexy Discount Costumes have an amazing assortment of sexy adult costumes for women (and men!) to get their role-play on!  There are even couple's costumes and easy and quick returns. Not to mention, there are also Plus-Sized costumes available as well on their sister site Plus Size Costume Supercenter! See...…

Feeling/Not Feeling: Everything and Nothing..


This song by Cody Chestnutt. It just makes me swoon. I promise I will do a "Thursday Tune" on this alone. It deserves it.smokey jazz clubs2 CHAINZZZZZZ!I am not into Gospel but that Tamala Mann "Take me to The King" has really ministered to me this week.Emeli Sande'Snow on the Bluff (check it out on's the #1 movie there...)contemplating celibacy again. I think I need to go back...bonding w/ new friendswhen he lets you sit in his lap, wraps his arms around you after a bad day, lets you lay your head on his chest, letting you cry, and just kisses your forehead and goes..."'s alright"getting into a new artist....and just digging them so hard oyu have to find every song, every mixtape. It's like a treasure huntfinding your G-spotI remember finding my G-spot like it was yesterday. I was 12......(yo...that's for another post).However...It wasn't until I turned like 33 that I had a full out, HUMUNGOUS orgasm …

Thursday Tunes: Luke James' "I Want You"

I remember watching the BET Honors awards last year and they presented their "Next Generation" (or whatever it's called) artist...and there stood this fine, chocolate, delicious thing on stage...singing his little heart out. I was all in as soon as I heard him..... I sat and rewound the DVR over and "Yo..WHO IS this dude!!"

He's soulful. He's fresh. He's Luke James.

And his first single "I Want You" didn't disappoint

I love this song. I truly do. I think I play it once a week. I's the sentiment behind the song. The passion.

I love the lyrics. When he sings just tears me up a little inside.... his falsetto is KILLER. The lyrics are so damn simple....but I LOVE the song. Just a man confessing his love for a girl.... and hey...he wants her!

My fav part:
Before I met you girl I never knew my heart could dance, hey, hey
Yeah, listen
I was just a broken record of one night stands
Until you came along, with your b…

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The Message: A Poem

I have something to tell you...

I've surrendered to the thought of you
A long time ago.
I've waited for you anxiously
To realize that I am what you need

I wait by the various forms of electronic
communication for you to fill this void.
My throat closes up
My hands shake.
and I realize maybe this wasn't such a good idea.

But we march on....
Because my bed is cold without you.
My right brain is taking over.
when my left brain really should

The crazy thing is I want you to feel excitement over me
In your toes like electric shock waves
chakras aligning
I wake up and praise the sun...

No....this isn't what I want to say.
I'm not done.
I feel like heartbeats are digitally remastered
set against some bossa nova of old...

I'm rambling now....
Shit..I'm stumbling somehow
Tripping over my words and making no sense
was I always like this around you?

*sigh* goes nothing..

I'm in love with you.

That's all I wanted to say :)

Pleasure and Pain: A Product Review

How to use a Flogger
Pure Romance by Suze (ATL area)
California Exotics

Here are a few pics from my party!

(I was Christian Grey..yes I look like a soft stud...LOL) Red "Rum" of Pain..... :)
Pure Romance Fifty Shades of Grey Catalog
Door Sign.... ;)

Thursday Tunes: Amel Larriuex "Makes Me Whole"

For a minute..this song might have been the wedding song of the 06-08 wedding season. I prob heard it at least once at every wedding I attended or on some wedding CD............

But it's so timeless..........

Amel Larrieux...the stunning half of the 90s R&B Duo Groove Theory (w. that FIONE Bryce Wilson .but I digress...)  and had  hit with "Tell Me" and "Keep Tryin"... She. has airy vocals and stunning songwriting abilities. She is sort of a fusion of jazz, soul, R&B and def old standard sounds.  The biracial beauty from NYC grew up in a super artistic household (Her mother is a dance critic and her father is an artist) and  broke out on her own when she did a guest appearance on Sweetback's album w/ the song "You will Rise". After her solo album "Infinite Possibilities", she left  Epic records and became an independent artist and along with her husband Laru, started her own label called BlissLife Records. She released 3 albums i…

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NSFW: The Weekly Porn Review

aka "Why I hate Wesley Pipes"  And/Or. "I'll take mine without ugly people".... 

** The WPR is back by popular demand. I had cut it out due to my own issues w/ watching and being celibate. While my stance on porn as an educational tool is still rock solid (despite my choice to end my celibacy) I found that porn seemed to not be the trigger that I thought it would be. So I acquiesce to your email inquiries, male and female, for more porn reviews!*

This week we will be reviewing...

Squirtin' Sistas 8

Stars:  Tatiyana FoxWesley PipesNathan ThreatRico StrongAquarius LoveSydnee CapriLuxury Amore...Less Categories:BlackFetishSquirtingWet / MessyAll Sex

Released:  02/2012 Studio Name:  Black Magic Pictures Series:  Squirtin Sistas' Director:  Greg Matthews

So I got the opportunity to try "video on demand" and stream a full porn movie. The selection of black porn was varied and vast, but what seemed to get the highest positive reviews was Squirting Sistas 8…

Thursday Tunes: Miguel "Adorn"

Hey Ya'll!

I'm on Vacation..and that being "real blogs" this week. But I did want to leave you with a song that I love right now.

Miguel's "Adorn"
Very sexy song...

Not much I wanna say on it. Indeed...I am on vacation :)
See you all soon !