Sex and The Southern Belle

This week the internet was all a-buzz about a young woman whose viral video depicting a day in the life of "street harassment" for women in New York City. The video has its flaws, as Roxane Gay has so eloquently pointed out. Most of the harassers are black and Latino. Nevertheless,...it's all harassment. Brave black women such as Feminista Jones and  artist Tatyana Fazlalizadeh are telling and shouting from the rooftops that this is not OK. ESP not OK to do to black women, whose bodies are targets of ridicule, objectification, and subjugation. Now, I am sure you are thinking:  what on earth does street harassment have to do with my husband and his compliments to me? I think everything. If you hear "hey beautiful" everyday as you walk the busy Metro streets, as you try to go to work or just take a jog around your neighborhood, you just brush it off as some tactic that men use to get in your pants. As a woman you think, "sure I am beautiful ...

Commuting to work today...listening to my IPod...I had a revelation on why I'm FINALLY ok with not dating and why Men in this city won’t date me: 1) I am saving money. LOTS of it. I don’t have to spend money on pedis, manis and all that extras like new outfits when I have dates...trying to impress some ridiculous bama who doesn’t care less. Furthermore, dudes expect YOU to come out the pocket a lot. And while I don’t mind doing that eventually...as we get to know each other...I don’t like doing that off the bat. Period. I’m old-fashioned. I can save money on my damn groceries cause your pooh butt ass won’t be sitting on my couch, eating my damn snacks. 2) Men don’t want to date me because I have no car . In this city, that's a requirement. I keep bringing it up (I know you are tired of hearing it) but I get tired of dudes saying I live so far (yet I live 6 miles from downtown..THEY live far). They are used to girls meeting them in places for dates and etc. Coming to THEIR...

There is a simple law of nature and natural selection and beauty. It's called the "Law of 3" aka . "The Trinity". Fellas..all in all..it's about the "Law of 3" aka "The Trinity". NO WOMAN has the trinity ( Ass, Legs/Thighs/Hips (yeah..they are grouped into one), and Boobs ) without some other apparent flaw. She never has all 3.  That is how natural selection of beauty works. Usually women get 2 out of 3 blessings in those departments in the natural selection process. If she has nice legs/hips and big boobs, she has no ass (like me...BONUS: I have an incredible face and good bone structure).. If she has nice ass and hips/legs, then she has no boobs. (like Beyonce ...no boobs whatsoever...corns on her feet...terrible weaves....but she also has a nice face...and light skin..so...she's up there) And if she has ALL 3..her face is MUCKED (such is the case of Serena Williams -amazonian body, face like a defensive end). OR if she has all ...

Have you ever just stood in a full length mirror and looked at yourself totally naked? Do you like what you see? Do you revel in your beauty and find the beauty in your unique quirks that some may see as "flaws"? Do you like what God has created?Or do you point out every flaw you have and wish it was erased? Do you pick out what makes you sad and disgusted? I think true nakedness is the inability to cloak and hide your emotions. Being raw with emotion and not hiding who you really are.Why would you want to live an "emotionally covered" life? Nothing is real. It's all done in shame and vanity......Is your bare nakedness truly what's ugly?? Or is it just a manifestation of your emotional un-prettiness? Thoughts?