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Valentine's Day GiveAway: The AdultToyShop

Contest Rules:

1) Like my Facebook Page  and share the give away post on your wall!
2) On the FB Fan Page under the blog, tell us "How do you spark a little passion within your relationship?

The best and most creative answer will win!
Extra Entries:

1)Subscribe to my YouTube Channel and comment on one of my past blogs
2) Follow my Pinterest page
3) Subscribe to my style blog: Stiletto and the Southern Belle CONTEST ENDS AT 5pm on Friday, February 1.
Good Luck!

ETA: WE HAVE A WINNER! CONGRATS TO SARAH GREY who is our FB friend and follower! WHOOP! Enjoy dear!

Guest Blogger Sunday: Embracing a Sexual Dry Spell

** Sex and the Southern Belle is proud to partner with Frances Denzel of for a timely guest blog....Valentine's Day is around the corner and well.........everyone isn't getting that loving feeling. We learn that sometimes that can be a good thing... **

Embracing a Sexual Dry Spell
Even the most passionate couple may experience a period in time when sexual desires are low. Intimacy is easily pushed aside, sometimes stress is a main cause or perhaps you simply “don't feel like it”. Some may feel concerned  that sexual disinterest will spill into other aspects of the relationship and lead to general disinterest with their partner.
Don't place a grim outlook on your future however, a sexual dry spell is an opportunity to embrace other aspects of the relationship and build your foundation stronger in other ways such an emotional closeness and a deeper friendship. You can also harness this time to bring a fantastic triumphant return to your sex life in a f…

Audiophilia: A Poem in Progress

The sweetest sound Is how you call my name The way you sing it like a song Hinted with southern drawl And soca beat, Southern bass or something in between.
How when we're alone and Sometimes it's a lullaby Just above the level of a whisper Like it is a promise you are keeping.
The sweetest sound is your laugh Loud and hearty full of light and love and ever present That draws me in And makes me want to laugh with you in syncopated beats.
The sweetest sounds is hearing your breathing the rise and fall of your chest soothing and calm like a quiet storm The waves crash as you brush my hair back onto the pillow
I'm in love with every movement of your being Your rhythms have collided with mine to make something beyond harmonious symphonies couldn't compare.
Moans are the most intricate lyrics Your hands the perfect instruments. You've molded me into an aria. Strings of my heart play only what you've written upon it...
If I should go deaf...I'd still be happy To …

Product Review: Toys for "Larger" Men.

Continuing our review of products for men,  I was posed with the question.

"What if you are a "larger" man and want a stimulating toy"??

Well..that is easy to find. and the people over at def can meet the needs of our well endowed brothers.

Yes people...that is the name of the site. handles the needs to men from lubricants to stimulators of all sorts.  They do specialize in a variety of toys but the toy that appeals to most "larger" men would be the  AutoBlow Max

This toy is made for men over 6 inches and up to 9 (or even 10) inches. It works like any electric blow job/pocket pussy/fleshlight type of toy, but the silicon is molded and takes into account the larger size of some men by using gentle sucking pressure. It isn't a penis pump..but definitely something can allow a man to reach orgasm up to 5 minutes from the start of use. With a non soluble water based lubricant, this toy will give you ample amounts of pl…

Product Review: Sometimes It's about Classics :)

As I was browsing the items on,  and I had a little giggle and a thought...

"Who remembers their first sexy toy?"
I remember mine. It was a classic little red regular pocket vibrator that only had a few speeds, wasn't super powerful, and I truly had no idea how to use it. It didn't last too long and I ended up burning it out (Not from over use) but because I left it on and it kept running. (LOL).

For most women, their first vibrator looked a little something like this....:

(LadyGasm Surprise Turbo Hitachi Wand Massager)
IT was a wand "massager". Clearly it was for "sore" muscles  (and can still be used for that by couples and women solo)...but women were ingenious and realized they could use it for orgasms, so much so that it was retooled and reshaped for that purpose. There are many versions of the "Hitatchi" wand, but  has them on sale for $39.95  in their "Clearance" area and it is truly the best an…

Product Review: The Prostate Stimulator is the time to find toys just for you. Our partners over at deliver quality products for men. And yes...even straight men can use these. Their toys are lightweight, affordable and compact and discreet.

My review is on the "Prostate Stiumlators". In particular, the Mangasm Spark.....

I know. It looks a little complicated and you are likeWTF but these prostate stimulators are smooth and flexible   They are curved to stimulate the perineum  (the outer surface of the prostate that is very sensitive and can crive men to orgasm).  It is made form a non-porous material and is safe to use with water-based lubricants. You receive maximum stimulation from the nodules that really vibrate along the motor. It has seven speeds of pleasure.
I had a guy friend test it out..and well......the approved! *thumbs up*
IF you are confused on how to use these not worry! also features videos (NSFW) on how to use the toys that they provide. Some …

Courting is on Life Support

So I just read an article today about how courting in the age of text messages, Facebook and Skype is pretty much dead to us young girls. And men have no social skills that women crave... Shows like Girls  on HBO show women having relationships totally via text, hook ups and just being awkward with boys with awkward social skills.

Even I have written blogs about  how guys want relationships solely via text messages. Post-Divorce I've experienced that a lot.  Guys who want to ask you out via text or have "dates" that aren't really dates but group activities or asking you to simply "tag along" while they are out. That isn't a date.

There are men who court. I know because finally, at the age of 33, I am experiencing a real courtship. This isn't to say guys didn't attempt to court me. I mean, I was married before. But sometimes, these guys just fell short. Something was off and I couldn't put my finger on it. They still wanted to do things way …

The Theme for 2013: INCREASE!

I know I know...slack blogger here. *sigh*. But I am doing something called LIVING. So...ya know how that goes? *winks*

I have given much thought to what I want to focus on in 2013. I already know the nature of this blog will change... Granted there will be sex things, gender things, and stuff like that. But... I think that the blog needs to move from "Oh do we do this relationship thing?" to " do I form a positive relationship outside of gender binaries?"

For is all about one word : INCREASE.
I was meditating...and flipped open to a scripture . Luke 6:38............

38 Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

and I had a "WHAT!" moment right then and there. I had heard that scripture so much as a kid (usually during offering time in the Baptist church) that I usually let it go in…

Mamas, Don't Let your Babies Grow up to be Kim Kardashian

I isn't even a full week into 2013 and we are full of fucknastyness and foolishness. Courtesy of the paparazzi loving, self-absorbed duo of Kim Kardashian and Kanye West.

While I LOVE Kanye West, who (I thought was...until he ran up in that rancid  Armenian poon) is smart, outspoken and talented and actually has a reason to make millions of dollars. I am perplexed by the purpose of Kim Kardashian other than being a staple on what is the equivocal of "Things to Do Once you Get Famous" list. People call her  (and her mother) smart and ingenious for turning her 15 minutes of fame into brand marketing.

I beg to differ. The fact that she got "famous" off a leaked sex tape with a C-rate R&B singer (who himself is only riding the coat-tails of his famous sibling) is disheartening. The fact that young girls look up to even more troubling, believing that the superficial and the artificial will get you everything you've ever wanted.

Now thes…