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Say it Loud: I'm Black and Repressed

Black people need to get free. If you based your judgment on rap music, porn, television, movies and covers of King magazine, you would think black folks are the most liberal, sexually free group of folks in the world. They show our  bare, tribal breasts in the pages of National Geographic. We twerk on stage with big butts in front of millions. We make Instagram posts grabbing massive sized penises while singing slow jams. We are half naked at Carnival. We can talk about taking the dick and sucking the clit.... But we can't talk about the beauty of sex? Just the animalistic nature of it. The Primal. The Base.... And we are bold faced liars. And they wanna keep us that way.  Black people are so closed minded about sex/sexuality because the oppressor stripped that beautiful thing out of you, replacing it with shame. They browbeat us with religion, making us ashamed of our bodies. Calling all own black skins a curse. How on earth were we to be healthy and happ...

Swallowing: More than Saying "Aaah"

I actually got an e-mail the other day from a reader (my very first one): Dear Mocha.  I've been married for 3 years. I love having sex with my husband but...just one thing. I won't swallow when giving head. I know it shouldn't be a big deal but I dont think I can stomach it.  I'm afraid. and he's offended and thinks I'm not "feeling" it. I know I should. He's my husband! Do you have any tips? Well, dear reader, mastering the art of oral sex (head)  isn't just about movement of a chick's tounge. It's about lip/ tounge ratio. It's about avoiding your teeth and ample deep-throating (and a lack of gag reflex if at all possible).  It's about lung capacity. And yes.. the wetter, absolutely, the better . But...this blog post isn't really about that. *** WARNING ***: The rest of this blog is for the ADULT and SUPER Grown . Viewer Discretion is advised. This blog is about what most (black) women fear and only a small per...

Give Away #2: Just In Case Condom Compact + Trojan Ecstasy Condoms

Sex and the Southen Belle is SO EXCITED to present our 2nd Give-Away: Just In Case, Inc. Condom Cases. You guys have no idea how EXCITED I was for May to get here! I was literally couting the days as soon April 30 was here! As you may recall, I did a blog earlier about the condom cases and well....here we are!! I can go on and on about how WONDERFUL their products are. but....why do that when a VIDEO is so much better: *EDIT*: The Makers of Just in Case Compacts have informed me that the Just in Case II also holds Magnum-sized condoms nicely :) To Enter: • Watch my YouTube Video. Subsribe to my YouTube Channel and Leave a  comment on my blog   (no video required) responding to the question: "How Do You Take Control of your Sexual Health?" Extra Entries: • Become a follower of my blog (via Google Friends Connect, Feedburner or NetworkedBlogs). If you are on Facebook and a friend, make sure you SHARE this give-away on your wall  S...