Sex and The Southern Belle

Continuing our review of products for men,  I was posed with the question. "What if you are a "larger" man and want a stimulating toy"?? Well..that is easy to find. and the people over at RoboticBlowJob.com def can meet the needs of our well endowed brothers. Yes people...that is the name of the site. RoboticBlowJob.com handles the needs to men from lubricants to stimulators of all sorts.  They do specialize in a variety of toys but the toy that appeals to most "larger" men would be the  AutoBlow Max This toy is made for men over 6 inches and up to 9 (or even 10) inches. It works like any electric blow job/pocket pussy/fleshlight type of toy, but the silicon is molded and takes into account the larger size of some men by using gentle sucking pressure. It isn't a penis pump..but definitely something can allow a man to reach orgasm up to 5 minutes from the start of use. With a non soluble water based lubricant, this toy will give you ample ...

In our latest installment of Ask The MochaPeach , we answer questions about men and sex toys, brought to you by adult novelty shop Adam and Eve. Dear The Mocha Peach: My husband and I are very adventurous in the bedroom. We use all types of toys and aids, But we are looking for toys that he can use, both together and solo. You see, I travel a lot for work...and sometimes I know he gets  lonely....so I want him to use some toys with his porn. Not to mention, we want some toys we can use together when I return from those long trips. He's very open to the idea but we have no idea where to start.  Have any ideas? Signed,  Need Toys for my Man ***** Dear "Need Toys for my Man": Well my dear, I am glad you asked me questions about sex toys for your  husband. I am glad he is open and receptive to using toys (and kudos to him for wanting to use them when his sweetpea is away  on business...awww!). Although I do not review many ale sex toys, I ...

My really good friend Yaki over at The Prissy Mommy sent me this link from one of my (secret) idols, Eartha Kitt. I used to practice talking like her...(lol)..cause I thought she had a cool, cat-like voice (She is the coolest Catwoman ever). Smart, sexy, and truly a Renaissance woman, Kitt was the epitome of glamour, style and class for her generation. They just don't make women like her anymore.... A little woman from North, South Carolina, she graced the stage and film and lived an ex-pat life many only dreamed of. This clip right here, her take on relationships, made me think.... She was disgusted at the thought of "compromise" just because a man came into her life. She said "Stupid"...I think her laugh made me laugh just as hard..because the thought was so absurd to her....she threw her head back and guffawed so loudly.  So is she right?? To love means never having to compromise?    "Falling in love...being in love..what is there to compromise?...

I love men. Specifically, I love black men. I love the way that they walk, the way that they talk, the brute strength, the beautiful aesthetics of brown skin, facial hair and that certain (for lack of better word) “swagger”. But I do have a problem with men…and the problem is ME. In speaking to someone recently, they said that they could see how my blog can come across as “bitter” sometimes. Maybe not “bitter” but they were unconvinced that I actually liked men...and in their words it sounded like a "hardcore lesbian trying to convince people she's straight".  I assured them “No. I love men. I really do. The problem is I love them TOO MUCH”. And then they asked how was that so… I’ll tell you why, buddy…. I love men so much that somehow I forgot to give a damn about my own needs. I loved men so much that I forgot that I need to have my own needs met across the board before I started to try and meet the unrealistic expectations of a partner who could give a damn ab...

*Note: This blog is a response to my (new-found) cyber homeboy and kindred blog-spirit  over at The Reasonable Bachelor (follow him on Twitter to @JacksonBracey)  He had this hilarious (yet true) list of 5 things that he hates to hear women say. Of course...I posted it to share on FB and it started a little dialogue. The ladies were like "So where's OUR list of stuff we hate to hear men say??" On the fly (and not to be outdone..LOL)...I responded..and this is the polished result* ****   I think that men don't think they get on our nerves. They don't realize that they to have little quirks and sometimes the things they say get on our nerves. They may not be known to be great communicators, but some stuff they say can truly chap our hides and get in the way of effective communications in relationships. Those top 5 things are the following (in no particular order): 1) It's Not That Serious -  So you all have an argument or disagreement. To you, this is t...

I'm starting to believe that the idea of a completely "faithful" man is an absolute fairytale. Most men in my life, uncles, cousins, and even my own father havent been faithful at all. My own ex husband was not faithful to me.  And up until I was a grown up, I thought my maternal grandfather was faithful..and he wasnt.  On a positive note, I can say he didnt make any outside kids! When my friends tell me they believe deep down their fathers have never cheated, I think they are foolish UNLESS their father came out and said "I DO NOT DO THAT!" otherwise...it's fair game to assume. I took an informal poll..and that was a very slim number of folks who felt their father's didnt cheat.  I didn't dare ask my married friends this. of if they think their husbands have cheated..most of them are living in La-La Candyland..... After my marriage, I dealt with a man who was cheating on his wife..with me.  His reasons for doing so were SO DUMB and unbelievable...

Why tell a lie when you don’t have to? What makes you think a lie of omission isn’t a lie? It's STILL a lie..... Scenario 1: I think I told you all about the dude I met via the dating website. We didn’t work out. Actually, his behavior turned from positively weird and strange to downright disrespectful. All he did was text and never call. He was VERY cheap which made me think he had a cheapened view of women (and me in particular).  I did some cyber-snooping and realized dude had a girlfriend the whole time. (Actually, It wasnt even difficult to find because social networks tell EVERYTHING.) Even took her on a Caribbean trip to his “homeland”. I found it strange that his page said “in a relationship”. When asked what that meant, he said “Oh just to ward off folks”. Trust me I wasn’t dumb and sort of fed dude out of a long-handled spoon afterwards. Recently, he decided to contact me via text (he never called always texted which was also strange and disrespectful and lacked s...

The other day on Twitter...I posted the following : Ain't nothing wrong w/wanting a lil male admiration? I don't wear cleavage out, stilettos, and flawless face for my girls!! Lmao! #realtalk I think my feminist friends frowned at me for that and tried to give me the side eye! So- the F**K -what!!!! Yeah Yeah..I look good for me! I have great self esteem, yadda yadda! I feel good for me..but it's NICE when a brother noticed the effort you put in........... for THEM . Might not even be a specific brother..just the male species! Like a peacock..you gotta STRUT! If I wanted just CHICKS to admire me...I'd be a butch lesbian. PERIOD. I dont wear these stillettos which hurt my toes for other chicks to admire! NOPE! I wear them so brothers can visiualize them in the air! (ok..and becuase I do have a shoe fetish that's unreal....but the latter is important!) I dont give a hint of decolletage for women to admire! NOPE! I give a hint so men can see how smooth and supple my sk...

I'm not trying to brag but.... I am a smart (attractive) black woman. I was educated in the fine public school systems of my county in the high achiever programs and made the honor roll.. I attended an HBCU (historically black college and university) and graduated Magna Cum Laude. I went on to attend graduate school and finished my Master of Arts in 1.5 years with a 3.67 GPA. I'm applying to PhD programs. I'm good at my job. I watch Jeoparday faithfully every night. I try to expand and improve my vocabulary everyday. I have a cursory knowledge of sports, literature and music and I love to read and learn about something new everyday. I feel like I'm a sponge. With that said... I think my brain is a turn off to men. I think guys take one look at me and they assume I have smarts...but perhaps they underestimate how smart I really am. (Then again..smart is relative. It's more intellegent and analytical more than anything). Men claim they want a smart woman. But....I th...

In talking to various men in my life (not necessarily IN my life, but just swirling around the peripheral of my life), I’ve come to an understanding about why men operate the way they do. Simply… BECAUSE THEY CAN I asked a male friend of mine why did he marry his wife and why is he staying? Innocent enough question. Is it monitary? Does she fulfill some sort of need otherwise? Is it a comfortable lifestyle? Is it her connections? He said “ The truth is that I'm w/my wife for the same reasons I married her. She's been a good friend, a staunch ally through some really difficult shit, we have fun together, & I love her. Nothing superficial. That's not 2 say that it's been all rosy obviously. It's been horrible @ times, a lot of time. But those are the fundamental reasons that kept me fighting 4 the relationship in a nutshell.” I’m sure some of you reading are going “Aww…that;s great”. Did I mention he’s been cheating on his wife for the past year (maybe more)? Yeah...

(BTW...that isn't me! LOL) As I sit here playing in my locs and basking in their glorious fragrance of the hair oil I use (as I do probably every morning at work for about 15 minutes before I start working. because bullsh*tting is totally my thing....).. I was just thinking." Why don't more brothers like natural hair ?"I don't mean the "Freddie Brooks/Mixed Chick" type of hair...I'm talking straight out the motherland, nappy, bushy, twisted-out,loced-up type of stuff. I think my locs are beautiful...and I personally don't give a damn if a dude isn’t feeling them...because he isn’t the dude for me. I just hate statements like..."Well...I NORMALLY don't like chicks with natural hair...but it looks good on YOU"...uhm...I'm just wearing my hair (with a little manipulation via some hair color and loc-maintanence....which is purely aesthetic) the way God had it grow out my damn scalp! What's so wrong about that? I think brothers i...