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Thankfully Giving Thanks

This Thanksgiving marks a lot of things and milestones for me. This is just the 2nd holiday season where I'm totally alone and single. Unlike holidays of the past, I'm also in a super excited mood for the holiday season. I was so pressed to get a tree and stockings and Santa Hats and Christmas PJs. (LOL).... I trimmed my tree last night, playing Jackson 5 Christmas CDs, and drinking  gourmet hot cocoa ( was Swiss Miss....LMAO!). I ordered my OWN gifts (and those for my family)...and gift wrapped them under the tree.

But this Thanksgiving is also sad for me as well. My mother still doesn't have a kidney (she's on dialysis) and my ex's Grandmother passed away. I really liked her a whole lot. When I found out the news yesterday, I just broke down and left work. It hit me so hard.... I am sure the white folks at my job didn't is family. A piece of paper meaning that we "dissolved" as a married couple means…

The League of Extraordinary Gentlemen

I think I'm a beautiful girl. I really do. (at least that's what my Mama told me and I dare you to say something bad about Marcie!!)  I think I have lovely bone structure and although we can all use some "work" here and there, overall, I'm not hideous. You dont have to screw me with a paper bag over my head. I def feel my self esteem is pretty balanced most days and I will admit, it took a LONG time for me to get there. That being said...I do feel like I put a "dating restriction" on myself.

I can pinpoint the day when it started...
I had a sorority sister who, by all accounts,  (I) thought she was a friend to me. I was in school in  a new state and around new people and she became a friend to me. She always wanted to set me up on dates...but..every dude she set me up with was NOT attractive to me. I went out on these dates because I was young and I figured a) I was bored, wanting to get out of the house. and b) I was hungry and sick of the meal plan I w…

Feeling/Not Feeling

Men hate them..but false eyelashes, when applied sparingly, are fabu!Amel Larrieux and THIS SONG... and THIS ONE TOO ..she is so beautiful vocally.My blogger homie  (and real life friend) having so much success and getting to interview her celeb crush, Wendy Williams:Cashmere SweatersSequins..they are the THING this season. I want them in shorts, leggings, cardigans.....*sigh* Obsessesd with them right nowBubble Baths, especially in cold winter itching desire to shave my head a la Chrisette Michelethe itching desire to be a momthe need for a sister circle and femal energydiamonds. I will always love diamondsGoing green's the little things I can doReal Simple magazine...Colbie Caillet....esp this song w/ Jason MrazBlack Girls INDEED Rock..(I need one of those shirts)My simple Christmas List (*ahem*... hint hint): Marshalls/Ross/TjMaxx/DSW giftcards, a Wii in RED, a 40 inch Flatscreen, a classic Tiffany necklace and bracelet, Bulgari watch (HA! yeah right)...a…

Mocha's Beauty Guide: A Sexy Date Vlog

PS: I totally forgot to add the part about my facial exfoliant (I may have edited it's St. Ives. Apricot Scrub-Gentle Formula)

Divorce is Funny (and Profitable)

My girlfriend/sorority sister/legal eagle, Y, sent me a link to a New York Times article about the Huffington Posts new section totally dedicated to DIVORCE.- a section that has dating information, info on blended families, and even the effects of divorce (and of course..celebrity divorce gossip).  It's actually quite resourceful.  Even noted author Nora Ephron, known for her cheerful, happy books, is also a contributor to the section.  I thought to is PROFITABLE! Gosh...perhaps my decision to be a blog about "life after divorce" wasn't such a bad idea.

Well...Huffington Post's new section...wasnt an instant hit. It sent the blogosphere into an uproar, particularly with those dear, old (and often delusional) Mommy Bloggers (most of whom are SAHM's who think Divorce just will NOT HAPPEN to them). They called Nora Ephron (who is a contributor to the section) crazy for finding humor in divorce. Women took it so far to say Ephron was doing a …

Poem: My Un-Apology

I will not apologize For my desire to be loved My desire to be wanted Appreciated and needed. I will not apologize for being so damn fabulous That I want to share myself with someone. I know I’m too fly to be in a perpetual dating circle. Some of us are just “breed” that way. T o all the women… Who are accused of being desperate and pressed for “a man” DONT YOU DARE apologize For wanting to be loved, cherished, appreciated and valued You hold your heads high... Keep your hearts carefully guarded And you say to the naysayers... "Desire" is not desperation. “Pressed” isn’t pressure. To "Care" isn’t to have cloudy judgment. Who wants to spend the rest of their lives roaming... From arms to arms. Heart to heart…. I know myself just fine. How much time do you want me to be alone? I love myself just fine. Dont tell me I'm too young..

worry about other things. Who said this was a "worry"....It's a want. Next time someone... Asks you to apologize For something as innate as your DNA Y…

Ask TheMochaPeach: Extended

Hello All! *waves*

Because I am swamped with things going on..."ask the MochaPeach" has been extended until Friday night at 10 pm.

I promise if you ask me a will be answered on my video blog THIS WEEKEND.

And because I know SOME of you are too shy to send an can send the questions via FormSpring anonymously 

I PROMISE I will answer your questions.. :)


There's No Money In Sex...

I absolutely love blogging. Writing is  and has always been my first love. I love that my blog has a pretty clear focus and that I get pleasure and enjoyment out of giving you all a sneak peak into my world of dating, divorce, and all things in between. I even got the balls and bravery to do some video blogs (vlogs).

But...there's no money in blogging...about Sex and Relationships.
I'm not saying I'm blogging for the dough. That's crazy talk! BUT...I'd love to get incentives. Slowly but surely...I participated in some cool give-aways and in some great review programs but..UNLIKEthe Mom Bloggers....which there seems to be a greater market for...folks aren't running to ME. Folks arent sponsoring me for contests or blog networking conventions or anything!  Unlike mom bloggers (or even pop culture bloggers), we  (the sex and relationship bloggers) don't get the great amount of PR or anything.  Some of the mama blogs I read arent even that good (lol)..and every w…

Calling All Readers: Ask TheMochaPeach

My Lovely Readers,

For my next Video Blog..I'll be answering viewer questions....

If you have a question you want to ask..about me..the blog..or love/relationships...Marriage and Divorce... or just about anything....feel free to send me an email:

OR If you wanna be anonymous...My FormSpring is fine too :)

I wil be taking submissions until 12 midnight PST , by TUESDAY November 9th :)

Feeling/Not Feeling


secret admirersargyle anything: sweaters, tights, scarfs...I LOVE some argyleChinese buffet w/ all you can eat crab legs (YUMMMM)this detox...I feel lighter..relaxed...centeredsurprises that make me giddythat people actually read my little ol' blog...and I appreciate the love! *hugs*Men in the following Fall ensemble: cashmere v-neck sweater, dress shirt, tie, slacks and a slip on Kenneth Cole/Cole Haan shoes...MERCY! *fans self* Just pick me up off the floor now!Modern Family (LOVE that show...)Mayer Hawthorne. GET THIS ALBUM!the fact that I have readers and watchers of the vlogs that just surprise me! :)the fact that Kanye is gonna come with the heat....controversy and allthe semester is ALMOST OVER!Marsha Ambrosius and THIS DAMN SONG!that smart is still sexy to some guys...there's still hope!

Not Feeling
that out of the 8 years of his presidency..W thought that Kanye's "Bush dont care about black folks" was his lowers moment? So we blaming it on the broth…