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Living The Life Of Charlotte

Long ago..I remember that I wanted to lead a life like "Carrie Bradshaw". You know...the shoes..the endless men..Mr. Big....the fabulous apartment..the style.. Glamour.....the creative job and the endless events in a fast-paced city. took her almost 10 years to finally nail Big down..and even then (as we saw in the movie)..that created a problem...that eventually was painstakingly resolved.

Do I really need that kind of drama? (I will, however, take the shoes.....)

But..maybe...just maybe....I'd rather have a life like "Charlotte York". I'm reminded of how she married Trey-gorgeous, beautiful but with mother issues and sexual problems. They divorce and she is left to pick up the pieces of her fairytale she was trying to build.

In the end, she mets Harry. A man totally not her "type" (bald, hairy, and a different religion too)....but worshipped the ground she walked on...who adored her. And didnt give her what she "wanted" (as Trey had given her)...but what she "needed". She had "stability"....and always bet on that...although she lamented through her dating trials

"I've been dating since I was 15..WHERE IS HE???"

Yes...I'd rather live a life like Charlotte least...that's what I'm learning.


  1. I loved Charlotte's character so much. This post makes me wanna break out my SITC dvds.

    OT: Did you know Kristin Davis has a clothing line? I saw it at Belks, but Im sure its carried in other department stores as well. Very cute stuff, very Charlotte-esque.


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