Sex and The Southern Belle

(These brothers are sharp...courtesy of Andre' Kardashian's Pinterest Board) FEELING MAXWELL IS COMING!! 2 nights, all the albums IN FULL, Phillips Arena! Free stuff with coupons Themed Food nights. Fridays are usually Tacos for me. Or Fish. Or Pizza. Michael Ealy and his sex scenes in "Think Like A Man" I like odd things like Full Lips w/ Green Eyes. Or Freckles on dark skinned folks. Or real negro features on SUPER light people. That's so dope and unusual Pinterest (that bears repeating) men who read books. enjoy reading books. it's sexy My upcoming Tango class girls who have ownership of their curves being curvy but FIT planning pretend weddings. dapper dressed men...(.and no...it's not "gay". it's just high fashion. i wish more men knew that!) Marc Jacobs Tom Ford like i deserve to be adored. everyday. every second of every minute of every hour of everyday. Not obsessively..but enough to where I deserve a damn phon...

Melanie Fiona is not only gorgeous but super duper talented...I saw Melanie Fiona (last name Halim) in concert last year with Marsha Ambrosius.  She and all her ebony flowing black hair was amazing! And while I've always  loved her since her debut album The Bridge  (which contained hits like "It Kills Me" and "Give it to me Right")  the Canadian songstress of Guyanese decent really sealed the deal for me with her follow up album The MF LIFE.  Although there were tons of songs I liked on her sophomore album, none struck a chord with me like the short song she wrote with Drake (Yes..the Drake...he was also her former band member back in the day) called "Been that Girl". It was gut wrenching to me (or maybe I was going through some period of rejection..who knows).  Say what you want about Drake...he may be a little "emo"...but he can definitely tap into some raw emotions. I think because Drake actually LOVES women. and you can tell. True....

(A moment of silence for the blue-eyed sexy thang that is Michael Ealy...sweet mother of GAWD!)

This evening, after turning in my LAST paper of the semester, my one and only (aka My Mama) and I went to have dinner and see "Think Like a Man". I enjoyed the eye candy. I enjoyed every single damn scene Michael Ealy was in..(WHEW!!!)...and I loved Kevin Hart's comedy and vulnerability...I even like Gary Owen (though limited in his role) as the voice of reason.....I loved all the cameos... It was a GREAT movie...don't get me wrong... But....the feminist in me has some G8damn concerns. What is the message we are sending to women?? All the women in the movie were pushing the men....pushing them to do the right thing..pushing them to be their best and live out their dreams.. and HOPING in turn they get their dreams. Yo...I am not feeling that. I was married to a dreamer..who, despite me pushing and encouraging NEVER had his dreams materialize…and you get tired.I can only motivate so much. We had the long term talk. We had the short term talk. If a n...

Feeling unappreciated. Although a negative..I am feeling that. adventerous. Got a lot I need to accomplish this summer when he says "hey gorgeous face...." It melts me so while he may say that to a lot of women....(LOL)..I feel it's special. the cool side of the pillow dapper dressed dudes someone reading poetry to me silence. drinking cold  El Jimador while listening to old Phoebe Snow records.... heavy breathing more silence Instagram Tweetgram Twitter booty. I just appreciate a nice ass...male or female a foot tattoo legalization of soft drugs nipple and clitoris piercings.... The Blog Bitches Gotta Eat and her corresponding FB page . LOVE HER. Erotic Art old fashioned puzzles with 1500 pieces, and doing them while I sip roobios tea pics of gorgeous black babies. sexual weird. I'm just a weird person Not Feeling appreciated (See above) secure like there is a reason to smile...Oh I smile..but I mean SMILE till it hurts and I ...

We all do it. All women do it. This is a universal fact.., So get over it men. But our reasons why may surprise you. In my women's studies class, I was responsible for presenting on the sexual, personal and political implications of faking orgasms. Yes... Political. This presentation was right up my alley. I mean, I'm a sex blogger for goodness sakes. While I always felt my orgasm or lack there of was a highly personal thing, I never thought of my faking it was some sort of participation in patriarchy or capitalism. Hard to understand? Let me explain.... As women, when we fake orgasms, we totally remove ourselves from the sexual experience. We play into the stereotypes of passive women who just "take" sex. We are the ones who are laboring in the sex: giving men our orgasms as a "gift" to their hard work.  Sex becomes a negotiation. Orgasms become our capital in sexual economy. Women feel that a man is the only one who can GIVE you an orga...

FEELING I met Jill Scott!! I was with my friend Rita and we were at Cheesecake factory! She was so nice! I shook her hand!  She even did a little bow!She had her cute son and looked amazing!!! *sigh* I had a serious girl crush! Jill is a goddess that can do no wrong..an Aries Goddess. *le swoon* Our waiter was so gay and excited (LOL)..he tipped us off that Jill was in the corner booth! That made my whole week! Seriously! The semester is ending I think Imma bring the full bush, 1970s pubes back. I mean..why torture myself with the waxing. I doubt anyone is gonna see it for a while. *shrug* ASOS.com Zara.com (LOVE IT) Canibus brownies (I've never had any...I just like the idea) legalized prostitution and labor unions for sex work. I love my women's studies classes more than my English classes. Just 1.5 more years to go.....let's hope at least....we shall see... Scandal. I like that show.... Surprise visits... laughing until I cry Big KRIT Monica's ...

The great Isaac Hayes, aka Black Moses. To most modern kids, he is known as the voice of "Chef" on South Park. But to us kids, who were raised on Soul, know him as Black Moses...Truck Turner. A man with a silky baratone, serious 1970s seduction. He was the man at legendary Stax records, the epitome of Memphis soul. I keep thinking about the first time I saw Isaac Hayes, in the Wattstax movie. He was the man who crafted the Shaft soundtrack. HE also wrote what I think is the longest song on earth...."By the time I get to Memphis..." Someone sent me this song. I think they were thinking of me ...I swooned.  All I could imagine was us in daishikis, with bead curtains, lava lamps, incense, body oil and velvet paintings..and a slow love scene sequence form a Blaxploitation film. Don't you just love 1970s soul??

This video is part of a discussion for my women's studies Sexuality and Society class. We will continue our discussion later this week....stay tuned :)

Me: Your kisses are everything... Like water to a nomad in the desert...*sigh* He: My lips were wandering until they found yours... Me: Well....welcome home, darling. :)

For your eyes were set upon me Antelope for the lion's mouth Prey that had no choice But to succumb to little deaths Electric blue was the energy Upon first sight The hunger consumes the hunter Anticipation thick like fog A seductive haze filled aura You saw... You entered me Body and soul Tongue fanning flames Hands gripping aroused flesh Swollen femininity and engorged manhood Meet at a secret dwelling space Arrive together in a cloud Sweat becomes nourishment Sweet relief. Prize rewarded For no real reason other than lust Beats pulsate but no music plays A trance becomes erotic dance Thrust into an orbit Salty tears signal arrival To a destination only you could navigate.. you...came And once it was over It's back to normal As if it was all nocturnal emission No use for love No use for it The quest narrative The migration piece Complete with denoumount The action of rising and falling hips Breathing has stopped The novel complete You...

Feeling: My new-found ability to just get up and travel whenever I damn well please (one perk of being single). Hotel beds...they are so comfy My trip to DC Seemed like every dude in DC had  a beard...sexy!!! Tequila shots (pretty much anything w/ tequila in it) My good girlfriends Brunch Dancing in hot, tight reggae clubs warm hugs making new friends... I feel in love with this Chinese spot in DC called Meiwah...*sigh* It was near my hotel and I swear I should  have taken some back with me Easter dinner...I love ham..sue me. I will not be giving up pork in my lifetime. *shrug* U street... Still love my IPhone and my IPod.... The smell of new books (and yes..I own a Kindle..but new book smell is awesome!) no summer classes! I am going to rest for 3 months........seriously rest and read for leisure and watch my DVR and take tango lessons and work out like a beast...more time! First kisses........and when people moan when they kiss. *shivers* Not Feel...

It's hard to narrow down ONE single, solitary Bob Marley song that I love. Ever since I was 8 years old, and stumbled across my father's old, dusty copy of " Legend " ....I was hooked. I would clean my room to Bob Marley ,shaking my 2 little curly ponytails and dancing..... I've always loved reggae.. Robert Nesta Marley may be more famous for his brood of children as well as his massive body of influential work. Born in St. Anne Parish Feb 6 1945, to a white plantation owner and an 18 year old Jamaican girl (Cedella Booker). he recognized his "double consciousness" and duality as a biracial Jamaican but was most influenced by Rastafarian movements and Marcus Garvey. Later in life, he joined Bunny Wailer, Joe Higgs, and the Peter Tosh ( also one of my fav artist btw.... ) as The Wailers. I could go on and on about the history of Bob Marley, the influence of his music, all his concubines and kids(lol)...but most audiophiles already know..... Bob Marley ...

So I made a conscious decision, sometime last year to have 1 year of celibacy until my birthday. Needless to say...that period is over. And I ended it.  (Yes...with sex). It was beautiful. Amazingly sensual. Connected in a way I hadn't experience in a very long time....And it was worth waiting for. The person respected my body and my needs. I didn't feel used .I didn't feel coerced or harassed. I didn't feel like I lost myself. If anything, I felt powerful that I had will power this long and did NOT give my cookies away to the first joker who batted his big brown eyes at me and flashed a cunning smile. I didn't feel once ounce of guilt or remorse. This isn't to say that I had this transcendental experience while making love. It was just.......... nice for a change. Yep...I waited a year. And I am better for it. Although some will judge and go, "Well..why not wait until your husband comes....".  Uh...while I want to get married...that may...

Is he this? He is... isn't he? He is nourishment and every meal: .for breakfast..lunch..and dinner..dessert and snacks in between   HE is spicy and sweet/Domestic and Exotic/Dark and Tall/Moody and Earthy/Amazing and Overwhelming/Magical Realism and Naturalism He is what has consumed...what rages in me a want for him like an all consuming fire. HE is the arms in which I lay....where my head perfectly fits. He has the lips that quench my thirst... He is the tongue that bathes my tortured skin. He is the thickness that engulfs me. He is....isn't he? He is tonic and elixir... He is what swells inside my womanhood, filling me fully, completely He is the smell of Christmas morning, Sunday dinners and Valentine's Day candy.. He is the balm for my heart...Neosporin for my old wounds and battle scars He is the pornographic and erotic, a sensual terrorist staking his claim He is the possessor of the tool of love that touches my spine, like the life force of human kind...