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March Bliss Check In

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  1. Man you stay in my head sometimes. You hit home at the end when you were talking about being open and vulnerable(sp). Not that I meet or have met alot of dudes since I moved here BUT I never think "he could be a mate" I always go in with my guard super high and let the chips fall where they may attitude....UNTIL last yr when I met ole dude..to open to soon to fast and w/o any real reason but I keep hearing it happens like that sometimes but umm yeah that ish is for the birds LOL (although I am thankful for the lessons learned and "feelings" and cause I hadn't felt that way about anybody since I moved here 12yrs ago so it gave me hope) Back to being guarded I go/no expectations or anything just going w/whatever flow (within reason) the next guy puts out there.

    GREAT Vlog! I will always give you props for being so open and transparent I wanna be like you when I grow up :-)

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  2. I agree about being thankful for past relationships. Those experiences really do help shape us into the woman that we are, and make us that much stronger. I wouldnt trade not a one of them.

    I love your look in this video with the blue scarf and tank. So cute!

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  3. Thanks you all....

    @Y...girl that scarf is a gift from my brother's travels..and the top is from Kohls...I was trying to look bohemian. LMAO!

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