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In a new weekly series, various women readers will be posing different questions to men in order to spark dialogue and get some male perspective>

This week's question comes come a reader, Candi.
"Has the phone call died??? Do men actually call women or should I expect a text as the norm?"

Here is some feedback from some men (and women):

CC (man)
Before I answer... are you referring to that initial call after the first meeting & exchanging phone numbers... or are you referring to a call vs. a text message after a relationship is established?

@CC..I think in general. When a person asks for your number..instead of a first "call" get a series of text. Rarely if brothers take the time and call a sista on the phone.
Thu at 10:25am ·

Sooooo true Tati! I mean why even ask for your number?

Ah... I see what you're getting at. Well, did you ever think about how much pressure is put on us regarding that first call? How long to wait, what to talk about, not to sound to eager or too nonchalant? Some guys may be thinking that the text message may be easier to deal with emotionally. You know we don't like dealing with a whole lot of emotions if we don't have to. *LOL*

KM (man)
You cant hide behind a phone. Voice carries more feelings than facial expressions at times. Then there is the I don't want to look desperate feeling even though all you think about would be her. I don't have that issue. I love to talk.

TV (man)
I don't think phone calls are dead but I feel that text messages have taken away the extended times on the phone. You can text anywhere, all throughout the day, and know exactly how someones day is going. You can have so much more conversation via text than a phone call provides.

I mean sometimes we'd like to hear your voice. I mean you can get away for 1-2 least once in the day. Dont "text me something sweet"...say it

^5 up top on that Tati!

there is nothing like hearing a sexy, deep voice on the other end of the phone. texts cant do that.

Thoughts, Fellas?


  1. Interesting.

    I am more inclined to text rather than call a woman unless I just have to call the woman. Why? I don't know. Text messages get straight to the point and it allows us to keep doing whatever it is we are/were doing.

    If it's the woman I live with, then, yes, I call every time. And I expect her to do the same.

    Enjoyed the read.

  2. But women want to hear the sexy, sensual sound of your voice. It's so impersonal to text. A call can take 2 minutes...


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