Relationship Resolutions for 2011

In 2011 I vow:

• o To get out more. No matter my circumstances. I need to get out more.
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• o  To let sex be on the backburner for as long as I possibly can. Though the flesh is weak and men are beautiful, we got to be stronger than this.
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• o To somehow “turn down my sexy”. This is going to sound crazy but I have to figure out whatever it is I am doing that makes men go left…when I do not intentionally do it.
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• o To stop being so shy and actually approach someone that I find attractive. Rejection be damned.
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• o To actually have a “date wardrobe”: a wardrobe in preparation for dates so I can be ready when the time comes.
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• o To be ready. Can’t get caught slipping with the brows, nails, pedi, waxing, hair Gotta stay ready…never know when an opportunity to go out will present itself.
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• o Take chances. Open myself up to other races…. even “non-traditional” arrangements like long-distance, someone 10 years older, or even bi-coastal…hey…if a dude in this city won’t be checking for me. I’m sure someone else will.
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• o Try joining more organizations of a professional nature to meet new friends.
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• o To get a GOOD girl crew to roll with. I have no one. Smh No one reliable anyway.
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• o Seek no one’s advice but my own (other than professional therapist and maybe my mama. and that’s a strong maybe)
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• o Identify what my Love Language is. I am not sure what it takes for me to be satisfied.
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• o To get out of “wife mode”. I was a fiancé and wife for so long I don’t know how to just be a “girlfriend”. So some stuff has to be turned off. The caring when I don’t need to…the cooking…the catering. F**K THAT! It’s about ME in 2011! IF you do for me..I’ll do for you. But I’m not doing for you off the jump!
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• o To date more like a man. Per professional advice…I need to keep a rotation of 3 (for a little while..not my whole dating life) so that I can experience dating more.
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• o To not keep quiet. If something bothers me, I need to speak up and say so.
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• o To not settle yet be open. If a person has 7 out of 10 things remember..70% still means passing  :)
  
• o To get out of my comfort zone: vacation alone. Eat out alone. Be more adventurous and where I go and even who I meet.

• o To not let guys come over for weeks at a time..esp. in the beginning of new relationships/friendships.

• o Not spend the night and vice-versa for several months into the relationship.