Sex and The Southern Belle

This week the internet was all a-buzz about a young woman whose viral video depicting a day in the life of "street harassment" for women in New York City. The video has its flaws, as Roxane Gay has so eloquently pointed out. Most of the harassers are black and Latino. Nevertheless,...it's all harassment. Brave black women such as Feminista Jones and  artist Tatyana Fazlalizadeh are telling and shouting from the rooftops that this is not OK. ESP not OK to do to black women, whose bodies are targets of ridicule, objectification, and subjugation. Now, I am sure you are thinking:  what on earth does street harassment have to do with my husband and his compliments to me? I think everything. If you hear "hey beautiful" everyday as you walk the busy Metro streets, as you try to go to work or just take a jog around your neighborhood, you just brush it off as some tactic that men use to get in your pants. As a woman you think, "sure I am beautiful ...

(It's going to be great) FEELING I am incredibly childish for feeling this but...........Ms Donna Goudeau . We gonna hold you down, sis! We know you are legally blind. How to Get Away with Murder. Viola is all that! My wedding photos. They are so bomb (although I haven't seen the rest of the). Thanks Montoya and crew! The Read. I listen to those fools religiously...... Honeymoons like mine. I wish I was there. Unlimited food and drink. Jacuzzis....EVERYTHING So many weddings over the past couple of months All these new movies coming out. Dear White People. The Equalizer.. Top Five (w/ Chris Rock) Couple Dates. Apparently we are acceptable to hang out with as a unit again. Going to see Dear White People w/ another couple. My new hairstylist. She's everything and like an older sister. The best. Makeup organization. My husband thought I was nuts for obsessiing over it. But anyway...take a look at my collection over on my style blog HERE. All the a...

*sigh* HubbyDude and I haven't been married a solid month. And already..folks are trying to find our baby registry at Target, plan showers, and talk to us about "you ain't getting no younger...you might as well do it" Actually...all the baby talk started as soon as we got engaged. And continued well into that phase. Even at the wedding, his Uncle gave a speech and said  "And please....make some babies". His sister wrote in a card to use that said "I can't wait for our kids to play together"....  All this pressure! Sure we've discussed children. And yes..my age is certainly a factor (as is his quite frankly). But, I know that most fertility studies aren't accurate and most certainly are outdated. How do you explain a 45 year old Halle Berry having a kid? I don't think it's science...sometimes it's Jesus (LOL). I am not naive. I know fertility drugs and infertility are a possibility. I have health issues that may ...

(Photo courtesy of Montoya Turner and Made You Look) Well...well...well. I know. I had the nerve to come back to you all married ...and not without a single HELLO or anything! Well.........let me fix that. Hello, darlings! :) After one heck of a fun wedding (I know...says the woman who was adamant about not even having a wedding) and to one SUPER romantic honeymoon....(whew chile..if a baby was made from that I wouldn't be surprised), I realized I've neglected my blog for a minute. I wrote a rather somber piece after the whole Ray Rice incident. But enough somberness....let's celebrate......... I think I may do a bit of a  quick and dirty "recap"..... and throw in a few pics here or there....... just a few. The weeks leading up to the wedding were def more hectic than the wedding weekend itself.  I even had a shower in my office after I told them NOT to go through all the hassle. It all started on Thursday when I met The Dude's extended f...

(Ray Rice, wife Janay, and their daughter Rayven) My parents have been married 37 years. My parents are still together. My father, an ex-cop, returned from the military shortly before I started 5th grade. Before that, I had a dream like vision of my dad, a super strong military man who visited on leave. I didn't know they had technically been legally separated since I was about 3 and his stint in the military was for him to "get his life together".  My father beat my mother more times than I could remember. Or that I can remember because I've blocked most of ages 8-18 out. My father was abusive,neglectful, controlling, manipulative and in some ways still is. He had several children outside his marriage. He had no remorse, felt no guilt, and did what he pleased. When he got out the Army, he was underemployed and drank a lot. That's stopped......(the drinking that is). When he became gainfully employed, money made it worse as he could exert all his control wit...

*blows all the dust off this sucker* I am 30 days away from getting married so I haven't been able to post as much! HA! Yeah right! I just don't have sh*t to talk about... until today... ********* So Nicki Minaj released the video for her song "Anaconda" which samples Sir-Mix-A Lot's" Baby got Back". If you do not remember that song....................take a look here It was a gloriously cheesy song that celebrated the black woman's backside in a time and era when big butt were not en vogue. Sistas around the world enjoyed shaking their rump to this song and just having a good time. Fast forward almost 20 plus years and we have Onika "Nicki Minaj" Maraj sampling Sir Mix A Lot's song in all it's campiness. The song is trash. Pur and utter fluff and trash, void of any real substance. LOL and the video is deliciously lame. Take a look. Warning it may be NSFW (unless work is Magic City....but ok........... really i...